Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Headaches / Questions

OK so to kind of give you an idea about Mondays I think it was Mondays post and what it was for. And to maybe be able to get some ideas from you all..
My background.. When I was 8 yrs old I started having headaches there was one day that It hurt so bad and my whole right side of my face got swollen. I have had CT scans with and without contrast I have had MRI's and there is nothing going on with my brain. I was on and off medications trying to find out what worked until I was 17 that is when I found what worked for me. Topomax. Life saver. But as I have been married and gotten pregnant for the first time that is when I had to stop taking it, and just when I am done nursing and start back on it we know it is time to add someone else to our family. So now that my baby is almost 12 months old this is about when I stop nursing my babies. But the question that is going on in my head is what do I do. I know for sure that I we want more children but I also know that I want to be at a healthier weight and feel better about me for awhile. Is this selfish? Part of me says heck no you need to take some time for yourself you are young you will be able to do it all. But then I think why not just get it all done and then work on myself latter. How do you find what is best? So I have been doing allot of thinking in between the pain this week and talking to Dr's and others. And on Monday I am going to start with trying to find out what makes my migraines worse. I am going to take everything out of my diet and add things back in one at a time. My question to you is have you every heard of anything like this? If you have was there a plan to follow? As of right now I am going on a whim I am just going to start like you would with a baby. So any help you can give me would be fantastic. I am also off to the Doctor to see what he thinks. But sometimes I feel like telling him OK I understand you don't have all the answers but hey you know its OK to let me know that you don't have a clue what is wrong and that this new pill isn't the miracle drug and you don't get my hopes up by telling me ill be better in 3 to 5 days ill be OK with that.
OK so sorry for venting it has been a hard week. My kids are running around like there crazy as we haven't done much more then watch movies. And dad has been making dinner so not as healthy as they could be the dishes are not done and haven't been since Sunday. SO yeah they are really pilling up. The laundry is ever growing as the last time it was looked at was Friday. So forgive me for my mood. My next post will be better I promise and also Ill post my Mondays update later today.


Laurie said...

About the whole next baby/medication thing... Your kids need a healthy mom! I don't want to tell you what to do, but if you're suffering, you aren't going to be able to take care of your kids as well! We chose to wait a while for the next baby because of the depression I experienced after Victoria. I already know right now, that I wouldn't be able to handle anything else. I want my kids to enjoy their childhood. I want them to enjoy having ME as their Mom - not only when I'm done having kids, but when they're young, too.

I'm not sure about the headaches, but my friend was over yesterday and said sugar gives her really bad headaches. Like she took one sip of Dr. Pepper and she got a headache a minute later!

Good luck on figuring this all out! I wish we lived closer so I could come steal your kids for a day so you can pamper yourself!!!

Regan said...

I have done quite a bit of reading on headaches over the years, although mine did turn out to be from a tumor, so that's good that you've had that checked already. If you do a Google search for "Migraine triggers" there is tons of information. Basically, just about anything can trigger a migraine, and you just have to try eliminating stuff until you find what it is for you, like you mentioned you were going to try. Do you have any other weird symptoms going on, besides headaches? I'm sure your doctors have/will check all that.

I think only you and the hubby can know, through inspiration, about the right timing for your family, but I do not think it's selfish for you to take some time for yourself. You'll be a better mom because of it. My girls are four years apart, which is further than we ever planned and we likely won't be able to have any more, but it's really okay.

Anyway, I know I still don't really know you all that well, but Bridget would love to have at least Riley come over and play some time. Please email or call if we can have her over, or do anything else for you! I made a whole bunch of extra enchiladas and put them in the freezer--do you want some?

Kermit Crew said...


I am so sad you are hurting right now and that your headaches cause you so much pain! I think you need to be whole before you add to your family! You need to find out what's causing your headaches and you need to have some time for feel good about you and to feel ready to take that next step of adding on to your family. The biggest thing I that you need a blessing! Heavenly Father will help you make the right choices!

Love ya!


Nikki said...

I agree with Laurie. I say do what is best for you. I would go to a different doctor and get re-tested it has been since you were a teen.